So the time has come again to write to you all. I have been trying to write on Fridays. However, to day I found myself with little to do and even less to say. I thought for a moment about readdressing some of my worst dates. Mostly because I read an article today from MSN that was discussing the worst kind of male and female personality types to date.
That being said I have finished class – YAH!!!
I have received all “A’s” with one exception. It is an exception because I have yet to receive a grade.
The first assignment that I got back from this professor was last Monday. Yes that was the second to the last day of class. The entire semester has gone by and the first grade I received was the day before the end of the course. You can’t even imagine how unpleased I am about that situation.
Needless to say grades were supposed to be posted on Monday and here it is Wednesday and nothing. I did not make it into work on Monday and so I am still thinking that it is Tuesday…
So the roommate and I got into it last night. This child left for home last Friday and left dishes in the sink. Food on the counter. Dishes in the living room and food wrappers on the floor in the living room.
So Friday I texted him and told him to come home and clean it up – I did not know that he was out of town until the next day. Needless to say he did respond – or come home for that matter.
So last night I told him “when I get home tomorrow, the kitchen is clean.” He wanted to discuss it but I told him that it was not a good idea. Then he told me not to get attitude with him.
Let’s back up here for one second. Every time there is ever a situation where someone is acting in an aggressive manner it is my natural reaction to back down. I have however developed a trap as it were and the roommate fell into it last night. Now when someone gets overly dominant it is far easier to succumb to them two, three, four times or even more. With Ben every time there has been an issue he starts yelling and I back down and never yell back. The idea behind this trap is to allow the person to become over confident. For them to get the idea that they are in control. Ben for instance had gotten the idea that he could push me around and that I would back down. That if he raised his voice I would let the whole situation go.
So last night he raised his voice and tried to act aggressively towards me. It wasn’t like he was completely trying to get into my face. But he got up and tried to confront me face to face. Well that is when it had gone just a tad too far.
I unleashed on this kid a furry I am not sure that he has ever experienced. He said that I had no right to yell at him… Um, you started yelling bitch – not me. At one point he said that if there is a problem that I need to meet him half way. Meet him half way???? Is this some sort of after school special. Do you think that we are going to hug at the end of this?
You left dirty dishes in the sink and went on vacation. Now I have to give a pretext to this. It isn’t that he left dishes in the sink and left. Of that he left the whole house a mess and left – things happen and I understand when they do. It is that since he moved in in January he has not cleaned up after himself one single time. He will leave the dishes in the sink until someone else needs to eat and there are no clean dishes then they get done.
He even bragged that the last three times the dishes have been washed it was he who started the dish washer. Not he who filled it, or unloaded it, or even put his own dishes in there – No he is the one who started it. Mind you this is a modern dish washer with DC power. It is not some old job that you have to stand behind and operate a wheel that produces ohms. It doesn’t require you to do anything but fill, start, unload. Since my roommate has gotten that starting thing figured out now all we need to do is find someone to fill it and guy to unload it, and someone to bring refreshments.
I am shocked that someone who is twenty seven years old insists that I meet him half way when cleaning up his own messes. I wonder if I should be meeting him half way when it comes to paying his rent. If that is the case I wonder if I get to bang his wife --- half way.
At any rate he also said that he is going to clean the place but he is going to do it his own way. I suppose that means that he will sit around until someone else cleans it for him. I can only suspect that is what he means given that has been how he has done all his cleaning thus far.
I am sad that it broke out into to a full on fight. I didn’t want that to happen in fact when he came home I avoided him the entire evening so that I would be completely calm when I spoke to him. But he just jumped right into it. I am now wondering if I should apologize to him. It really is a double edge sword. If I apologize it will reopen the topic and might give him the impression that I am willing to tolerate his behavior. If I do not apologize then I am not practicing what I preach… What to do what to do????
1 - I know that there are people who do not love their fellow man, and I hate people like that!
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